How to Know if He or She is "The One"

In this New Year of Love, Relationships and Body-typing, I'm going to start with sharing how my hubby and I met and how I knew he was "the one".

My husband Jon and I met in early 2000. As of today, we've been married for 14 fun and love-filled years! So, if you've already done the math, you know that we got married pretty quickly. We just knew . . .

I met him at his martial arts school. He was the owner and principal teacher- which of course made him even more attractive, and he is/was already super charming and handsome!

I was only 18 but I already knew my "type". You know when you crave a specific kind of food, say Thai food and more specifically, pad thai chicken? Nothing else will do; not Chinese, not Indian food, because you want the specific combination of ingredients in the pad thai dish from your favorite Thai restaurant. Convert the idea of flavors into a certain energy and magnetic attraction that you're desiring- and that's how clear I was on the guy I was meant to be with.

Now, please don't misinterpret what I'm saying. I do not mean that I had the list of ingredients that goes into making this amazing pad thai dish. My "list" was as simple as: rice, noodles, chicken and green onion. There's no need for a list, you can't replicate or trick yourself that it is or is not "the dish"; once it's in front of you; you smell it, you experience it, and you know - That's it!

So, when I first met Jon, I have to admit, yes I was very attracted- but I was clearly not the only one who felt this way about him. 

I was a bit unsure about myself and my potential of being with him. I also didn't really know if I really liked him beyond his looks and apparent enthusiasm for life and success. I originally showed up there to train and to develop myself; so that's what I focused on.

So, I trained at his school, I was me (did not put on any airs - which meant I was grounded in my Air-Element - topic of my book You-niversal Self-care) I had fun and observed how he was as a person.

Later I found out that my behavior was attractive to his Fiery (see Body-typing book) side. He was accustomed to girls chasing after him; but this ambitious man needed to do more of the chasing. He liked that I took the time to observe him and not rush into things. He admired my work-ethic at his school and could see that I had interests outside of finding a man and was an eager student like him.

We met in January, started dating in June (when I became his Spanish teacher and we were therefor we were mutually teacher-student, offsetting the no-dating-students policy) and got married in November. Quick yes. Do you just know when you know, yes! Has it been absolutely right, yes!

Still looking for "the one"? Get clear, but simple about what you want; it will be much easier to identify when he or she comes across your path. AND, Going back to the food analogy, if you know you like Thai food, you don't go to a Sushi bar! Go where you are more likely to find what you want!

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