It's ok

I've noticed a lot of people in the last couple of days being especially defensive and a bit aggressive. I have personally received and observed a number of people responding with short, abrupt answers and in some situations have been very quick to explain their case in defense with little or no provoking.

In life, I see that we often experience the situations in life that we need in order to learn lessons. So, if one is a person who prefers to have a quiet life at home, this person may have a child who is the "life of the party" and pushes the parent to get out and be active. Another person may be very driven and be challenged by their spouse's contrasting more slow and mellow nature.

We all experience challenges in life. Oftentimes our challenge shows itself in a situation with characteristics that are opposite from our own nature.

I often find myself in environments and situations with people who are rather opposite from me: they are more Fiery, direct, or a certain situation may be active or intense. I've learned a great deal from these contrasting experiences; but one that particularly stands out is that being calm doesn't always solve a problem nor does being very active or even pro-active.

We need to be aware of ourselves, our environment and of other people.

I recently noticed the seeming magic in a phrase that I have caught myself using lately.

There are so many times during the day that I would find myself wanting to calm someone down, or explain why something was the way it was in life or in that particular outside situation, or I simply wanted to comfort someone.

It's ok - Tara Baklund - TarasBook.com

Explanations, no matter how thoughtful, did not always have the desired affect of resolution, calm or understanding.

How often is it that we just want to be related to; we want someone to acknowledge our feelings?

But it's not always appropriate to agree with someone or support their feelings just for the sake of helping them them to feel better and validated.

A phrase that I have found myself using is, "It's ok."

Often time things are ok as they are. When we put our expectations on a person that they should go to an event or be a certain way; that person may feel pressured and that it's or they are not "ok".

The words "It's ok" or "That's ok" neither snuffs out a person's thought or feelings nor does it add fuel to whatever fire could be kindling. It simply acknowledges that things are ok as they are.

Try it on yourself; the next time you feel pressured by yourself or you are experiencing a deep emotion. Rather than talk yourself out of the experience, tell yourself, "This is ok." and observe what happens and also what doesn't happen.

Even for one moment, everything is and can be "ok".